i work on a multi platform project, so i can't use _s function and i don't want pollute my code with visual studio specific code.
my solution is disable the warning 4996 on the visual studio project. go to Project -> Properties -> Configuration properties -> C/C++ -> Advanced -> Disable specific warning add the value 4996.
if you use also the mfc and/or atl library (not my case) define before include mfc _AFX_SECURE_NO_DEPRECATE and before include atl _ATL_SECURE_NO_DEPRECATE.
i use this solution across visual studio 2003 and 2005.
p.s. if you use only visual studio the secure template overloads could be a good solution.