For what it is worth: I was experiencing a similar issue trying to update a MySQL table via Perl. The update would fail when an empty string value (translated from a null value from a read from another platform) was passed to the date column ('dtcol' in the code sample below). I was finally successful getting the data updated by using an IF statement embedded in my update statement:
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my $stmnt='update tbl set colA=?,dtcol=if(?="",null,?) where colC=?';
my $status=$dbh->do($stmt,undef,$iref[1],$iref[2],$iref[2],$ref[0]);
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