Not all parameters are supported by all cameras - actually, they are one of the most troublesome part of the OpenCV library. Each camera type - from android cameras to USB cameras to professional ones offer a different interface to modify its parameters. There are many branches in OpenCV code to support as many of them, but of course not all possibilities are covered.
What you can do is to investigate your camera driver, write a patch for OpenCV and send it to code.opencv.org. This way others will enjoy your work, the same way you enjoy others'.
There is also a possibility that your camera does not support your request - most USB cams are cheap and simple. Maybe that parameter is just not available for modifications.
If you are sure the camera supports a given param (you say the camera manufacturer provides some code) and do not want to mess with OpenCV, you can wrap that sample code in C++ with boost::python, to make it available in Python. Then, enjoy using it.