It sounds like the populate method is what your looking for. First make small change to your post schema:
var postSchema = new Schema({
name: String,
postedBy: {type: mongoose.Schema.Types.ObjectId, ref: 'User'},
dateCreated: Date,
comments: [{body:"string", by: mongoose.Schema.Types.ObjectId}],
});
Then make your model:
var Post = mongoose.model('Post', postSchema);
Then, when you make your query, you can populate references like this:
Post.findOne({_id: 123})
.populate('postedBy')
.exec(function(err, post) {
// do stuff with post
});