This shows the number of connections per each DB:
SELECT
DB_NAME(dbid) as DBName,
COUNT(dbid) as NumberOfConnections,
loginame as LoginName
FROM
sys.sysprocesses
WHERE
dbid > 0
GROUP BY
dbid, loginame
And this gives the total:
SELECT
COUNT(dbid) as TotalConnections
FROM
sys.sysprocesses
WHERE
dbid > 0
If you need more detail, run:
sp_who2 'Active'
Note: The SQL Server account used needs the 'sysadmin' role (otherwise it will just show a single row and a count of 1 as the result)