From java.util.Date to XMLGregorianCalendar you can simply do:
import javax.xml.datatype.XMLGregorianCalendar;
import javax.xml.datatype.DatatypeFactory;
import java.util.GregorianCalendar;
......
GregorianCalendar gcalendar = new GregorianCalendar();
gcalendar.setTime(yourDate);
XMLGregorianCalendar xmlDate = DatatypeFactory.newInstance().newXMLGregorianCalendar(gcalendar);
Code edited after the first comment of @f-puras, by cause i do a mistake.