Run into this thread and let me try to express it in this way.
3-way handshake
Bob: Hey Amy, I'd like to tell you a secret
Amy: OK, go ahead, I'm ready
Bob: OK
Communication
Bob: 'I', this is the first letter
Amy: First letter received, please send me the second letter
Bob: ' ', this is the second letter
Amy: Second letter received, please send me the third letter
Bob: 'L', this is the third letter
After a while
Bob: 'L', this the third letter
Amy: Third letter received, please send me the fourth letter
Bob: 'O', this the forth letter
Amy: ...
......
4-way handshake
Bob: My secret is exposed, now, you know my heart.
Amy: OK. I have nothing to say.
Bob: OK.
Bob: I LOVE U
Amy received: OVI L E
TCP is more reliable than UDP with even message order guaranteed, that's no doubt why UDP is more lightweight and efficient.