To recognise your Tomcat installation folder, Eclipse is scanning for the following files:
conf/catalina.policy
conf/server.xml
conf/web.xml
conf/context.xml
conf/tomcat-users.xml
conf/catalina.policy
conf/catalina.properties
lib/catalina.jar
so make sure you're pointing to the right place and have the right read permissions.
E.g.
brew
), it's: /usr/local/opt/tomcat/libexec