I found a fix that while it's not actually using ajax it does allow you to use a javascript call to request the download and then get a callback when the download actually starts. I found this helpful if the link runs a server side script that takes a little bit to compose the file before sending it. so you can alert them that it's processing, and then when it does finally send the file remove that processing notification. which is why I wanted to try to load the file via ajax to begin with so that I could have an event happen when the file is requested and another when it actually starts downloading.
the js on the front page
function expdone()
{
document.getElementById('exportdiv').style.display='none';
}
function expgo()
{
document.getElementById('exportdiv').style.display='block';
document.getElementById('exportif').src='test2.php?arguments=data';
}
the iframe
<div id="exportdiv" style="display:none;">
<img src="loader.gif"><br><h1>Generating Report</h1>
<iframe id="exportif" src="" style="width: 1px;height: 1px; border:0px;"></iframe>
</div>
then the other file:
<!DOCTYPE html>
<html>
<head>
<script>
function expdone()
{
window.parent.expdone();
}
</script>
</head>
<body>
<iframe id="exportif" src="<?php echo "http://10.192.37.211/npdtracker/exportthismonth.php?arguments=".$_GET["arguments"]; ?>"></iframe>
<script>document.getElementById('exportif').onload= expdone;</script>
</body></html>
I think there's a way to read get data using js so then no php would be needed. but I don't know it off hand and the server I'm using supports php so this works for me. thought I'd share it in case it helps anyone.