You're just missing one critical step. You have to explicitly pass the return value in to the second function.
def main():
l = defineAList()
useTheList(l)
Alternatively:
def main():
useTheList(defineAList())
Or (though you shouldn't do this! It might seem nice at first, but globals just cause you grief in the long run.):
l = []
def defineAList():
global l
l.extend(['1','2','3'])
def main():
global l
defineAList()
useTheList(l)
The function returns a value, but it doesn't create the symbol in any sort of global namespace as your code assumes. You have to actually capture the return value in the calling scope and then use it for subsequent operations.