If you have a single play that you want to loop over the items, define that list in group_vars/all or somewhere else that makes sense:
all_items:
- first
- second
- third
- fourth
Then your task can look like this:
- name: List items or default list
debug:
var: item
with_items: "{{ varlist | default(all_items) }}"
Pass in varlist as a JSON array:
ansible-playbook <playbook_name> --extra-vars='{"varlist": [first,third]}'
Prior to that, you might also want a task that checks that each item in varlist is also in all_items:
- name: Ensure passed variables are in all_items
fail:
msg: "{{ item }} not in all_items list"
when: item not in all_items
with_items: "{{ varlist | default(all_items) }}"