An easy solution is to have a boolean variable that the thread sets to true on regular intervals, and that is checked and set to false by the thread wanting to know the status. If the variable is false for to long then the thread is no longer considered active.
A more thread-safe way is to have a counter that is increased by the child thread, and the main thread compares the counter to a stored value and if the same after too long time then the child thread is considered not active.
Note however, there is no way in C++11 to actually kill or remove a thread that has hanged.
Edit How to check if a thread has cleanly exited or not: Basically the same technique as described in the first paragraph; Have a boolean variable initialized to false. The last thing the child thread does is set it to true. The main thread can then check that variable, and if true do a join on the child thread without much (if any) blocking.
Edit2 If the thread exits due to an exception, then have two thread "main" functions: The first one have a try
-catch
inside which it calls the second "real" main thread function. This first main function sets the "have_exited" variable. Something like this:
bool thread_done = false;
void *thread_function(void *arg)
{
void *res = nullptr;
try
{
res = real_thread_function(arg);
}
catch (...)
{
}
thread_done = true;
return res;
}