My own version of Kim T's code above which combines with some jQuery and allows for targeting of specific iframes.
$(function() {
callPlayer($('#iframe')[0], 'unMute');
});
function callPlayer(iframe, func, args) {
if ( iframe.src.indexOf('youtube.com/embed') !== -1) {
iframe.contentWindow.postMessage( JSON.stringify({
'event': 'command',
'func': func,
'args': args || []
} ), '*');
}
}