if you have control over the query which builds the jQuery object, use :eq()
$("div:eq(2)")
If you don't have control over it (for example, it's being passed from another function or something), then use .eq()
var $thirdElement = $jqObj.eq(2);
Or if you want a section of them (say, the third, fourth and fifth elements), use .slice()
var $third4th5thElements = $jqObj.slice(2, 5);