[xmpp] Which port(s) does XMPP use?

The official ports (TCP:5222 and TCP:5269) are listed in RFC 6120. Contrary to the claims of a previous answer, XEP-0174 does not specify a port. Thus TCP:5298 might be customary for Link-Local XMPP, but is not official.

You can use other ports than the reserved ones, though: You can make your DNS SRV record point to any machine and port you like.

File transfers (XEP-0234) are these days handled using Jingle (XEP-0166). The same goes for RTP sessions (XEP-0167). They do not specify ports, though, since Jingle negotiates the creation of the data stream between the XMPP clients, but the actual data is then transferred by other means (e.g. RTP) through that stream (i.e. not usually through the XMPP server, even though in-band transfers are possible). Beware that Jingle is comprised of several XEPs, so make sure to have a look at the whole list of XMPP extensions.