You may be able to use the JAVA_TOOL_OPTIONS
environment variable to set options. It worked for me with Rasbian. See Environment Variables and System Properties which has this to say:
In many environments, the command line is not readily accessible to start the application with the necessary command-line options.
This often happens with applications that use embedded VMs (meaning they use the Java Native Interface (JNI) Invocation API to start the VM), or where the startup is deeply nested in scripts. In these environments the JAVA_TOOL_OPTIONS environment variable can be useful to augment a command line.
When this environment variable is set, the JNI_CreateJavaVM function (in the JNI Invocation API), the JNI_CreateJavaVM function adds the value of the environment variable to the options supplied in its JavaVMInitArgs argument.
However this environment variable use may be disabled for security reasons.
In some cases, this option is disabled for security reasons. For example, on the Oracle Solaris operating system, this option is disabled when the effective user or group ID differs from the real ID.
See this example showing the difference between specifying on the command line versus using the JAVA_TOOL_OPTIONS
environment variable.