[wget] Can I use wget to check , but not download

There is the command line parameter --spider exactly for this. In this mode, wget does not download the files and its return value is zero if the resource was found and non-zero if it was not found. Try this (in your favorite shell):

wget -q --spider address
echo $?

Or if you want full output, leave the -q off, so just wget --spider address. -nv shows some output, but not as much as the default.