Two possible approaches.
If you have a foreign key, declare it as on-delete-cascade and delete the parent rows older than 30 days. All the child rows will be deleted automatically.
Based on your description, it looks like you know the parent rows that you want to delete and need to delete the corresponding child rows. Have you tried SQL like this?
delete from child_table
where parent_id in (
select parent_id from parent_table
where updd_tms != (sysdate-30)
-- now delete the parent table records
delete from parent_table
where updd_tms != (sysdate-30);
---- Based on your requirement, it looks like you might have to use PL/SQL. I'll see if someone can post a pure SQL solution to this (in which case that would definitely be the way to go).
declare
v_sqlcode number;
PRAGMA EXCEPTION_INIT(foreign_key_violated, -02291);
begin
for v_rec in (select parent_id, child id from child_table
where updd_tms != (sysdate-30) ) loop
-- delete the children
delete from child_table where child_id = v_rec.child_id;
-- delete the parent. If we get foreign key violation,
-- stop this step and continue the loop
begin
delete from parent_table
where parent_id = v_rec.parent_id;
exception
when foreign_key_violated
then null;
end;
end loop;
end;
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