In an instance where you want to set a placeholder and not have a default value be selected, you can use this option.
<select defaultValue={'DEFAULT'} >
<option value="DEFAULT" disabled>Choose a salutation ...</option>
<option value="1">Mr</option>
<option value="2">Mrs</option>
<option value="3">Ms</option>
<option value="4">Miss</option>
<option value="5">Dr</option>
</select>
Here the user is forced to pick an option!
EDIT
If this is a controlled component
In this case unfortunately you will have to use both defaultValue and value violating React a bit. This is because react by semantics does not allow setting a disabled value as active.
function TheSelectComponent(props){
let currentValue = props.curentValue || "DEFAULT";
return(
<select value={currentValue} defaultValue={'DEFAULT'} onChange={props.onChange}>
<option value="DEFAULT" disabled>Choose a salutation ...</option>
<option value="1">Mr</option>
<option value="2">Mrs</option>
<option value="3">Ms</option>
<option value="4">Miss</option>
<option value="5">Dr</option>
</select>
)
}